Kale, makolo ndi madalitso a mkwati ndizofunikira, popanda iye palibe amene angakwatirane. Lero, mwambo uwu wataya kufunika kwake, komabe ambiri omwe angokwatirana kumene akufunitsitsa kulandira dalitso la makolo awo paukwatiwo.
Madalitso a makolo paukwati
Mwambo wa madalitso a makolo uli ndi magawo awiri: isanakwane ukwati (wolemba milandu kapena ukwati) komanso isanakwane.
- Asanakwatirane, mkwati ndi mkwatibwi alandire madalitso a makolo a mkwatibwi. Izi zimachitika kawirikawiri pambuyo pa dipo, pamene mkwati atha kale kugonjetsa ntchito zonse zovuta ndikufika kwa mkwatibwi, koma asanachoke kunyumba kwake. Kugwirizana ndi chikhalidwe chotsirizira ndilololedwa - moyo watsopano udzayamba kupitirira malire, choncho madalitso oyambirira a banjali ayenera kupezeka asanachoke kunyumba. Makolo a mkwatibwi akunena mawu ogawanitsa komanso akufunsana kwa achinyamata awiriwa. Izi zimaonedwa ngati chizindikiro cha kuvomerezedwa kwa mwana wamkaziyo, osati kungofuna kukhala ndi moyo wosangalala. Dalitso loyamba likhoza kulandiridwa tsiku la masewera. Koma lero mwambo umenewu suwonekera nthawi zambiri, choncho nthawi zambiri achinyamata onse amalandira madalitso onse tsiku la ukwati.
- Madalitso achiwiri paukwatiwo omwe adakwatirana kumene amalandira kuchokera kwa makolo a mkwatibwi. Izi zimachitika atabwerera kuchokera ku REGISTRY (tchalitchi) kutsogolo kwa khomo la nyumba ya phwando kapena nyumba ya mkwati. Makolo a mkwati amatchula mawu ofunda ndi malingaliro a moyo wosangalatsa kwa banja lachinyamata. Makolo akhoza kudalitsa madalitso awo panthawi ya phwandolo. Zikhoza kuyamikiridwa kapena nthano za makhalidwe abwino a mwana wamkazi, pamapeto pake makolo amanena kuti ana awo adzakhala osangalala m'banja. Mwachikhalidwe, abambo a mkwatibwi ayambe kuyankhula, koma sikuti anthu onse ali ndi mawu, choncho amaloledwa kuti udindo wa wolemba nkhani umatengedwa ndi amayi.
Madalitso a makolo mu chikhalidwe cha Orthodox
Mu chikhalidwe cha Orthodox, mwambo wa madalitso umachitanso mu magawo awiri - kuvomerezedwa koyamba kuchokera kwa makolo a mkwatibwi, ndiyeno chikhumbo cha chisangalalo kuchokera kwa makolo a mkwati.
- Pofuna kukonzekera mwambo malinga ndi chikhalidwe cha Orthodox, choyamba chofunikira kudziwa ngati aliyense akufuna mdalitso wotero. Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti anthu okhulupirira okha ndi omwe amalowa mu mwambo wa Orthodox. Ngati palibe abatizidwa, ndiye kuti ayenera kubatizidwa asanakwatirane. Kuti adalitsidwe adzalandira zizindikiro (kwa mkwatibwi - chizindikiro cha amayi a Mulungu, chifukwa cha mkwati - chizindikiro cha Khristu Mpulumutsi). M'mabanja kulemekeza miyambo ya Orthodoxy zithunzi zoterezi zimachokera. Mkwatibwi ndi mkwatibwi ayenera kugwada pansi pa thaulo, ndipo makolo a mkwatibwi amalengeza mawu a madalitso ndipo amachita katatu mtanda wa chizindikiro pamaso pa banjali. Pambuyo mkwati ndi mkwatibwi wopsompsona ndikupita ku ofesi yolembera komanso kachisi ku phwando laukwati.
- Pambuyo pa kulembedwa kwaukwati, okwatiranawo adalitsidwa ndi makolo a mkwati. Pamaso pakhomo la phwando la phwando, "chikhomo chabwino" chikufalikira.
Pambuyo pa njira yamapope mayi wa mkwati amaimirira ndi mkate ndi mchere m'manja mwake ndipo abambo a mkwatiyo ali ndi chithunzi m'manja mwake. Mtsikana amayima pamtunda, ndipo abambo a mkwati akuwadalitsa ndi chizindikiro ndi kunena mawu ogawanitsa. Makolo angasankhe chotani, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti "kudalitsa, kuyamika, kukhumba" analipo pamalankhula. Izi zimachitika makolo a mkwati akusonyeza kuvomereza kwawo kwaukwati ndikufotokozera chiyembekezo cha chimwemwe cha ana onse m'moyo wawo wa banja.
Zithunzi zomwe anadalitsidwa anaziika pa tebulo nthawi ya chikondwerero. Zithunzizi zitatha kwa anthu okwatirana kumene ndikukhala achibale. Pambuyo pake, zithunzi izi zimachokera kwa ana.